Sunday, May 16, 2010 Blog Carnival: Kindess in parenting

Parenting is a hard job no matter who you are. Throw in a chronic illness or three, it can be challenging. When I decided to get pregnant, I did my research. Talked to several women who had successful pregnancies, they shared stories about what to expect. After speaking with my team of doctors, we decided to try getting pregnant.

I survived nine months of pregnancy, more appointments and check-ups than the average woman. The end result was a beautiful daughter. Raising a three year old is something no one could prepare me for. When struggling to get ready in the morning, you have someone else to care for. I learned early to not purchase clothing with tiny buttons; zippers & snaps are so much easier. Learning to ask for help getting my daughter in and out of the car seat at daycare would teach me many lessons about myself. Relying on others in my time of need.

The biggest thing I try to teach my daughter is compassion for everyone. Compassion and asking others for help. I'm still struggle with asking for help, my stubborn pride gets in the way all the time. She has had to learn to be self reliant already, and I find myself constantly telling her "It's ok to ask someone to help you do things" as my husband smirks to himself, bet he's thinking "pot, kettle, black." Any of my friends reading this could leave comments with stories how I won't ask for help.

Using my experiences of living, surviving, and thriving with a chronic illness will provide the basis of her education. A small gesture such as holding the door open, to doing yard work for an ill friend. I hope to instill kindness in her, random acts of kindness (I took her on a project of our own of spreading love with post-it notes over Valentine's weekend!). I don't want her to grow up remembering she has a "sick" Mom, focus on the fun times, creating memories focused on values, kindness, family & friends.

I am a mother who is living, surviving and thriving with a chronic illness! She has taught me lessons to; have fun, don't take myself seriously, remember to smell the rose. Being the best mom that I can be, despite the obstacles I have to overcome.


  1. Good post..great Mom...super kid...fabulous Hubby!

    I'll be back to read again

  2. Great post, Erica! You are so right about kindness, and I cannot imagine how difficult a decision it must have been for you to choose to become pregnant in the first place. The universe decided for me (I was on birth control and - surprise! - now I'm a mommy) and I'm not sure what it would have taken for me to take that leap, even though I dreamed of having a baby... I'm grateful every day that the decision was made for me because missing THIS would be unthinkably sad.

    (I dragged along my husband + baby girl on Valentine's weekend to hide post-its all over our neighbourhood too... CREEPY!)

  3. Beautiful! You are very lucky indeed! You should be very thankful for what you have, and especially that you are able to ask people for help when you need it most!
    Blessings, Dana

  4. I tried to comment last week and just realized my comment isnt here. Thanks all for the kind words and following me.

    Lindsay weird we both did that with our kids! she had a blast, I am all about random acts of kindness!